Ok so it has been a long time since I posted on this. I’ve been busy with course work so that when I have spare time I do not want to spend it on a computer writing!!
This post will be a quick one so I decided to write it on a topic we will all be familiar with, friendship. It is a tough one to get right and often we confuse friends with acquaintances. I have a certain view of friendship and that is the type of friend I aspire to be. It doesn’t mean that everyone shares these views and that is fine. I have had many different types over the years and as a result of this I now know who my real friends are and who I want to keep in my life. Below I’ve looked at a few types I’ve encountered over the years..
The one looking for better
When I was younger I actually acted my age and sometimes wanted to remain a child. I wasn’t interested in growing up before my time and for this reason I was constantly dumped by friends. They would head off and play/hang around with people cooler than me then come back to me when they got bored. I would let them because I was so happy to have them back.
The selfish one
Ok we all probably have a slightly selfish friend which is fine once you are aware of that. However years ago when I was a dope I had a friend who let me pay her into clubs, buy her drink and we could only go to places she wanted to when she wanted. I learnt my lesson when she cancelled on me after the time we were meant to go out. All because I wanted to go to a different club. Turns out she cancelled me but then talked another friend into going to where she wanted. That was pretty much the end of that friendship.
The dramatic one
The one who craves drama whether they create it or just want to hang around you when there is drama so they get gossip. If that’s your thing then that is cool however I rather stay away from drama.
The one that will drop everything
There’s the friend who will offer to help you in every way and they actually will if possible. They will rearrange their plans and give you their last cent if you let them. These friends are great friends to have and not because you can get them to do all that but because they want to. The trick is to not ask it of them or put them in a position where you take advantage of their good will.
It may be you in your group but there will always be one of your friends that will be the reason for the get togethers. This becomes harder to organise as you get older when relationships and families come first. These again should not be taken advantage of as sometimes it’s nice for it them to be asked!
The ride or die ones
These are the ones who have been there and remain there for you. You may have had fall outs but you know your friendship is worth more than who is right or wrong. They will accept you saying no to them and feel free to say no to you or pull you up on your faults. They will be honest about the *rsehole you have fallen for and will be there for your tears when they are proven right. They will be messy with you on a night out and not post the ropey pictures of your double chins the next day.
My ride or die always 😊
For me friendship is a two way street. You can’t have one person make all the effort with you, you have to make effort with them too. You have to be honest with them, especially when shopping! You also have to allow them to be honest with you. Real friends won’t try knock you down to make themselves feel better, they will look out for you or help pick you up. It’s ok if you haven’t seen each other in a while because when you get together it’s like no time has passed. You have to understand that the world does not revolve around you. Whilst you are going through a hard time, your friend may also have stuff going on so ask how they are. Above all I hold honesty and loyalty in very high regard in people whether it be friends or family. It might be why I’ve always been a dog person from a young age!!
I am lucky that I have a lot of different types of friends. When you know which type of friend they are you can exert the same amount of energy into the friendship that they do. Sometimes this helps you understand if they are worth hanging onto or not. Also think about what type of friend you are and if you can improve on that. Like I said this is a quick post and I hope it hasn’t been a waste of time 😊