Thank you for being a friend…h

Ok so it has been a long time since I posted on this. I’ve been busy with course work so that when I have spare time I do not want to spend it on a computer writing!!

This post will be a quick one so I decided to write it on a topic we will all be familiar with, friendship. It is a tough one to get right and often we confuse friends with acquaintances. I have a certain view of friendship and that is the type of friend I aspire to be. It doesn’t mean that everyone shares these views and that is fine. I have had many different types over the years and as a result of this I now know who my real friends are and who I want to keep in my life. Below I’ve looked at a few types I’ve encountered over the years..

The one looking for better

When I was younger I actually acted my age and sometimes wanted to remain a child. I wasn’t interested in growing up before my time and for this reason I was constantly dumped by friends. They would head off and play/hang around with people cooler than me then come back to me when they got bored. I would let them because I was so happy to have them back.

The selfish one

Ok we all probably have a slightly selfish friend which is fine once you are aware of that. However years ago when I was a dope I had a friend who let me pay her into clubs, buy her drink and we could only go to places she wanted to when she wanted. I learnt my lesson when she cancelled on me after the time we were meant to go out. All because I wanted to go to a different club. Turns out she cancelled me but then talked another friend into going to where she wanted. That was pretty much the end of that friendship.

The dramatic one

The one who craves drama whether they create it or just want to hang around you when there is drama so they get gossip. If that’s your thing then that is cool however I rather stay away from drama.

The one that will drop everything

There’s the friend who will offer to help you in every way and they actually will if possible. They will rearrange their plans and give you their last cent if you let them. These friends are great friends to have and not because you can get them to do all that but because they want to. The trick is to not ask it of them or put them in a position where you take advantage of their good will.

The organizer

It may be you in your group but there will always be one of your friends that will be the reason for the get togethers. This becomes harder to organise as you get older when relationships and families come first. These again should not be taken advantage of as sometimes it’s nice for it them to be asked!

The ride or die ones

These are the ones who have been there and remain there for you. You may have had fall outs but you know your friendship is worth more than who is right or wrong. They will accept you saying no to them and feel free to say no to you or pull you up on your faults. They will be honest about the *rsehole you have fallen for and will be there for your tears when they are proven right. They will be messy with you on a night out and not post the ropey pictures of your double chins the next day.

My ride or die always My ride or die always 😊

For me friendship is a two way street. You can’t have one person make all the effort with you, you have to make effort with them too. You have to be honest with them, especially when shopping! You also have to allow them to be honest with you. Real friends won’t try knock you down to make themselves feel better, they will look out for you or help pick you up. It’s ok if you haven’t seen each other in a while because when you get together it’s like no time has passed. You have to understand that the world does not revolve around you. Whilst you are going through a hard time, your friend may also have stuff going on so ask how they are. Above all I hold honesty and loyalty in very high regard in people whether it be friends or family. It might be why I’ve always been a dog person from a young age!!

I am lucky that I have a lot of different types of friends. When you know which type of friend they are you can exert the same amount of energy into the friendship that they do. Sometimes this helps you understand if they are worth hanging onto or not. Also think about what type of friend you are and if you can improve on that. Like I said this is a quick post and I hope it hasn’t been a waste of time 😊


So long 2017…..

Ok so I tried writing a post on 2017 & honest to god it was very depressing. However it was honest so I am going to try & start again, a bit more upbeat. Let me start by explaining I struggled this year a lot. On social media you wont see pictures of me unhappy as who really posts that online? However I am open about how hard I found life this year as for me it always helps when I hear of people who can relate. Therefore I want to use this blog for people who feel the same & may make them feel a bit lighter knowing they aren’t alone.

So here it goes…

Dating; I started 2017 communicating with a catfish, ignoring all the signs as he messed with my head & made me feel like crap. Eventually picked myself up from that to end up with two guys older than me who ended up ghosting me. During the summer I dated a younger guy but the age difference was something I couldn’t ignore no matter how I tried. End of the year saw me with two emotionally unavailable men, one who has become a friend of sorts, the other who made me realise I deserve to demand more for myself. So 2017 is ending with me still single, hopefully 2018 will end differently.

Travel; My best friends hen began my travels with us heading to Edinburgh. I then made my way to Thailand, struggled at the start however I met some wonderful people & am still in contact with one. London was next & this helped me realise that solo travel means doing whatever you want to do, even if this is spending it doing nothing in a park! Belgium was a fantastic short break in August & I finished my travels in Croatia which is an unbelievably beautiful country. I loved all of my trips though sometimes I felt I travelled too much abroad when there is so much to see in Ireland.

Health; Ok so this is partly why I struggled this year & I cant say my health was that bad. However it took my up until August to realise that how I felt for a long time was actually a physical health issue & not necessarily a mental health issue. Basically I have had bouts of depression this year. I mentioned before it is not a term I use lightly, however it was something that affected me. Along with this I had periods of exhaustion where I would come home from work & nap for two hours, still feeling tired after this. This was during the summer where the previous year I spent it hiking every chance I got. So being a vicious circle the lack of exercise & physical exhaustion lead to more depression. Eventually blood tests revealed it was an under-active thyroid which I was aware I would eventually have. I googled symptoms & this made me feel better knowing that I wasn’t imagining them. However by my second blood test my levels corrected themselves which meant I would not be out on medication. I at least am now aware that if the symptoms present themselves there is a possible reason. When I just started feeling normal & got back out to hike, I ended that day with spraining my ankle at home which messed me up for 6 weeks. I looked forward to the Christmas period as I had a week off to hike & I got a bloody cold! 2017 really wanted me to be lazy & put on weight!!

Car problems; When I wasn’t sick during the summer my car was acting up. I loved my car, it was only 8 year old. However every third week I had to leave it in to be fixed. Overall the car cost me €1000 which I really couldn’t afford. I ended up getting further into debt & upgrading my car to a 152.

Concerts; I was lucky enough to see Ed Sheeran this year & he was amazing as usual! I then went to Phil Collins which was way better than expected ( I was also drunker than expected). The Killers supplied me with extreme pleasure in London in July & again in Dublin in November. U2 were also in July however whilst their stage was fantastic I have seen better concerts from them. Little Mix was November & whilst I enjoyed them I felt the sound was sometimes off. Very eclectic genres of concerts!!

This year also saw me putting myself first when making a hard decision. Whilst it wasn’t easy & unfortunately it affected others I am happy to say I don’t regret my decision. I also signed up to a course to try challenge myself. Still awaiting results of my first assignment in 16 years!

So in hindsight I am glad I rewrote this blog post! I don’t think it was as bad as I really felt. I did have hard times & struggled with loneliness which is hard to explain to people when they know me as a social person & have their opinions of my life. People don’t always show their struggles. Mostly everyone tries to put on a brave face but only when people have experienced their own will they understand others. We can all try to be kinder to each other which is easier said than done I know.

For 2018 I have travels to look forward to along with more concerts. I have a divorce to look forward to! I will be testing myself further with this course & still on the lookout for someone to share my life with. I will hopefully still have my Izzie beside me, keeping me sane with her love & loyalty.

I hope 2018 will be a better year for everyone, especially those who lost someone they cared about xxx

Must see places in Ireland: Powerscourt Gardens

Every year I mean to do more tourist things in Ireland, however my plans always get way laid or postponed due to my love of travel outside the country, work, hikes and hangovers. I live in a beautiful country that people spend a lot of money to travel to so why not take advantage of that?

One place I kept wanting to visit is Powerscourt Gardens. It is in county Wicklow about 30 minutes outside Dublin and whilst I visited the waterfall two years ago I wasn’t able to visit the gardens as I had my cairn terrier Izzie with me. 

This week I changed that by heading down with my mam. It is €10 entry fee per adult in and takes approx 1 hour to walk around the full garden. 

I would stress to wear comfortable shoes as there is a few steep hills you will encounter and it would be more enjoyable without the stress of heels. 

When you first walk in you notice the huge fountain and the beautiful landscaping that takes your breath away. The gardens are set against the backdrop of the sugarloaf mountain which adds to the stunning scenery surrounding them.

There are different sections marked on the map to visit and audio guides are offered if you wish. We declined these however if I go back I would like to get these to know more about the history. 

We wandered to the different gardens, enjoying the smells and the views around us. I don’t need to say much more about the gardens as the pictures speak for themselves!

Afterwards we had intended on sitting in one of the cafes within the house, however they were extremely busy. We had a look in some of the shops and window shopped in the garden centre before heading back to the car.

We drove two minutes down the road to Enniskerry which is a pretty village that offers a couple of dining options. We opted on pub grub that we got to enjoy outside as the weather was lovely. 

Overall I would recommend a trip to visit the gardens if you have the time. They are voted the third best garden in the world by National Geographic so it’s not just my opinion!!

Chilling in Brussels

Earlier this year a friend and I decided we would take a weekend break somewhere. With the prices in Ireland rising I checked out Skyscanner for cheap flights and settled on Brussels. Return flights were €60 with Ryanair and most 4 star hotels averaged at €100 a night, so it worked out cheaper than what we could pay here with the added benefit of ticking off another country on my list.

The flight was an early one and even though it was slightly delayed we still arrived at 9am. After looking at a website that showed prices for transport from the airport to the city we chose to take a taxi as there were two of us and seemed to be the same price as two rail tickets. However I would not do choose this option again if I return to Brussels. The taxi cost €45 to the centre which isn’t far, on a Saturday morning so there was no traffic. The driver was also extremely rude and unhelpful. It also turns out that on our return to the airport the train tickets were cheaper than expected at only €8 each. So I would go with the train in future!

Our hotel was Novotel Brussels Centre Tour Noir that I had picked due to price and TripAdvisor rating. It was €100 a night or €115 with breakfast if you booked as non refundable. I recently noticed on my app that if your friend books and stays somewhere using a link that you both can receive a €15 refund off so we did that and basically looked at it as getting our breakfast for free!

The hotel is nice with a bright reception. There is a small lounge area with computer games for children and a few computers for guests use. Our room wasn’t ready so we left our luggage and went to explore Brussels.

We ended up taking a couple of right turns which lead into a small market place where a lot of restaurants were putting out their outdoor tables. We browsed the different menus and commented how pricey they seemed to be. I was quite ignorant going to Brussels, unaware of the language or culture. It didn’t take long to realise that French and Dutch are spoken, you can also see it in the architecture with the different styles. I am a big fan of Paris and I loved Amsterdam so I liked how Brussels looked. 

We made our way back to the hotel to use it as a base and looked up Grand Place as we had a walking tour booked for there in the afternoon. As we made our way to Grand Place we noticed the amount of restaurants and chocolate shops everywhere. There seemed to be a nice vibe around the city. Though a lot of homelessness too. 

Grand Place is a pretty square steeped in history. The buildings were centuries old. It’s also extremely busy with tours and tourists. After a quick bite in Starbucks’s we decided to find the shopping street to kill time before the tour. It wasn’t far away at all with the likes of Zara, H&M, Mango etc. Shopping isn’t top of my list when visiting countries however the street doesn’t have as much to offer as other cities that I’ve visited so if that’s what you are into I might pass on Brussels. 

We joined the tour at 1:30 with our guide Frazer who is Scottish. He gave us an entertaining run down on the tour and Grand Place. From there we moved on to see Manekin Pis, a miniature statue, an old church that was part of a pilgrimage to El Camino, the royal galleries which are beautiful filled with chocolate shops and restaurants. We stopped at a beautiful cathedral on our way to the Royal Park. We stopped here as Frazer told us about the EU parliament buildings, spoke about the recent terrorism in Brussels and thanked us for coming to view the city he called home for four years. He was very passionate when speaking about Brussels and it was nice to hear. We then went to the Royal Palace where he briefly spoke about its history and we finished our tour with a gorgeous view of gardens and the city. As it is a free walking tour a tip is expected to a certain extent. However on both SANDEMANs tours that I have taken part in it is not hard to part with your money. The guides I have met are well read in their history and entertain you aswell. I would recommend this if you are visiting.

The walking tour is a brilliant way of finding your feet in a city. I am good with direction anyway and there’s always google maps but I still appreciated the fact that I had an idea where I was going thanks to the tour. Brussels is compact so everywhere we wanted to go we walked to.

We were peckish so we made our way to a burger restaurant, where we just had a mains and some rosé. It wasn’t nearly as expensive as the restaurants we had viewed earlier! Due to our early start at 3am and the km’s we covered on our tour we were feeling tired but decided for one last drink before heading to bed. It was only about 7pm so we didn’t want to go too early! I don’t normally do this so don’t judge but we ended up in an Irish bar. It had the GAA match on tv for us to watch with a bottle of wine so we settled in there. Soon enough we were joined by a stags from London and before we knew it it was 1am. We made our way back to the hotel to get our backs and check in!

Obviously the next day we weren’t in any hurry to leave the hotel so after breakfast we went back to bed for a while. Breakfast had the usual cold meat and pastries offering along with a small selection of hot food. Tea and coffee were offered along with a juicer to have fresh oj. It filled us up anyway.

When we got up we went and got Belgian waffles with strawberries and cream. Not really my thing but I don’t drink beer so I thought I’d try the waffles! They were nice but too much for me. We strolled through the city as we made our way to the Palace. It’s open only in August for viewing. However after going into the cathedral we passed the day before we got to the gates at 3:45pm to find that they close at that time! We decided to go to the park and chill out for a while. It’s nice to take time to do that on a city break as so often you are trying to cram things in! 

Afterwards we continued to stroll as we get we had seen everything that we wanted to see. We settled in a nice Thai restaurant to people watch and have dinner. Again this wasn’t as expensive as we had expected. I think mainly if you are just having a mains and either drinking house wine or local beer it will be similar prices to Dublin. However imported beer or cider is pricier with a pint of Magners costing €8! 

We arrived back at the hotel a lot earlier this time as we were exhausted from the day before, we also still managed to clock up a lot of steps walking around! 

The next day we tried the palace again to discover it doesn’t open on Mondays so we never got to see inside! We also picked up six boxes of chocolates for €10 and split them between us. They were by far the nicest chocolate I had tasted! 

We walked to Central Station which was ten minutes walk from our hotel. It was quick and easy to get to the airport. I would advise though that once past security there is only one restaurant really for food and I thought it over priced. €20 for a burger meal. We went to the newsagents where I got a salad for €5 so a lot cheaper. Just maybe eat before going through security unless you don’t mind paying that!

Overall I liked Brussels. I’m not sure there was enough to make me return there however I have heard Bruge is lovely…

This is the link offer €15 reward on if you use to book and stay 😊

Rocking solo in London Town 

Ok so last weekend saw my solo visit to London to view The Killers in Hyde Park. I’m a massive fan and as they hadn’t toured in four years I booked my ticket once presale started. I booked my BA flight into Heathrow after much deliberation. I thought I would get it cheaper but in the end prices for flights to Standsted, Gatwick and Luton weren’t enticing me enough once you factor in having to take a train then the tube. 

Landed on a beautiful day to 28 degree heat. Got my tube alright and luckily enough the picadilly line went straight to the station I needed. I booked a hostel in Kensington beside the park. The only thing was the gig ended up being the exact opposite side to where I was staying. 

My flight was slightly delayed and the tube takes approx 60 minutes to get to Kensington. I then had to walk fast and follow googles directions to my hostel as quickly as I could due to a booking for a tour that was to begin quite soon. 

Kensington just screams money. Everywhere I looked Landrovers decorated the streets, white pillared residences gleamed and children with bonnets happily walked with their parents. I was shocked that a hostel would be in this area but it was. It was a good one too!

Astor Hyde Park was a great choice. Not only was it close to the park, the staff were friendly, the dorm was bright and airy and security was important. I checked in ok but as my room wasn’t ready I locked my bag pack away in a luggage room before racing to catch my tube to Covent Garden. 

I looked online at free walking tours and settled on Sandemans as it got good reviews. I later discovered a friend used them in Paris and was quite pleased with them. I made my 1pm booking with a minute to spare. Though in the end we ended up waiting a few minutes before we began. The large group was split into two and introduced to our guide. His name was Angus and he is Australian. He had studied Shakespearean theatre and this stood well to him as our guide. There was never an issue with hearing him and he had an entertaining way of telling us the history of the places we stopped. As I said it was a beautiful hot day so the walk at times was sweltering, at any chance we could we took shade. It was a royal tour so we visited St James Palace, Prince Charles residence, Buckingham Palace and Westminster. The walk took about 2/2.5 hours and my feet were very sore at the end. However I thoroughly enjoyed it. Though it is free a tip is welcome. After the tour I realised I hadn’t eaten for about 8 hours so I grabbed food and cider in a pub Angus took us to. 

Afterward I made my way to Oxford Street as I had to pick up a gift for a nephew. On my other occasions of visiting London I purely went to shop so I had been on that street a lot. However I never noticed its proximity to Hyde Park before. Don’t get me wrong it’s at the very bottom of the street, but still only ten minutes walk. I decided to walk there as it was so nice out and get my bearings for the gig the next night. On my way I passed Selfridges which had a different meaning to me after watching the tv show! 

The park was full of bars and activities thanks to BST who were hosting the festivities over the couple of weeks. Only for my feet were blistered from walking and I was exhausted I would have spent more time there on Friday evening. Instead I decided to walk back to the hostel to get an idea of the walk for the next night. 

Back at the hostel I made friends with girls in my room and went to a nearby pub for a drink. The hostel was hosting a charity night in aid of Grenfell tower with live music which I thought was a nice touch. Was also a good way for people to mix.

The next morning after breakfast I was indecisive about what I wanted to do. I ended up walking to Kensington Palace and queuing to get in. A tip though would be to book ahead and skip the queue as even though I was very early there was still a thirty minute wait. I spent about ninety minutes wandering about the exhibitions. I enjoyed the Diana one the most. Some of the talks gave a good insight into the history of the palace. I left the palace and looked around the gardens which were beautiful. 

I then decided to spend the afternoon doing nothing! The weather was gorgeous and I was tired, so I lay on the grass reading. There’s so much going on in the park though, I recommend a visit. 

After grabbing food and beverages in the local newsagents I went back to my hostel to clean up for the concert and meet one of the girls. We walked with the crowds to the concert. The park was set up well for an outdoor gig. The bars were a long wait as usual. I am not a fan of being too close to the stage as I always get stuck behind tall people! We got a good spot near the merchandise at the back. The Killers as always put on a great show. My only complaint is that it went by too quickly! 

The next day I checked out of the hostel and started walking with my bag pack. I decided to walk towards Harrods as I had never before seen the famous store. As it was a Sunday morning it wasn’t open but I felt like it was a box ticked. I still had time before making my way to the airport so I decided to fit in St Paul’s Cathedral. I didn’t mind the fact that I wouldn’t have time to go inside and explore. The main thing I wanted to see was the steps, as these were the storyline for the homeless lady in Mary Poppins selling pigeon food for “tuppence a bag”. After walking the circumference and marvelling at the detail in the architecture I noticed a fancy bridge down the street. A geeky part of me really enjoys architecture and engineering so I ventured towards it. I’m glad I did as the bridge went over the Thames river towards the Tate museums. From there I got to see Tower Bridge in the distance. Another box ticked off my tourist list. 

On the bridge I took a moment to enjoy the moment and to be proud of myself for another solo trip that I greatly enjoyed! I made my way back to the tube and to reality unfortunately. Though I always look forward to getting home to Izzie!

Phuket; The first stop on my Thailand Vacation

Ok so flying solo wasn’t too bad, I just didn’t dwell on the fact that I was alone. I watched movies & dozed off when possible. After customs in Bangkok I grabbed my luggage & headed upstairs to check in for my flight to Phuket. (By booking separately I saved time & money) I had booked a later flight in case there were any delays so I was expecting a 4 hour stopover, however the airline asked if I would like to check in for the earlier flight so that was a bonus. The one thing I noticed was how there were signs with power banks everywhere. You have to carry these in your hand luggage & not in your check in. They are strict about this.

I didn’t prearrange transport to the hostel & though I did look at ways to save money on getting there, I ended up getting a cab. It cost 800 baht but after nearly 20 hour travelling & the humidity enveloping me from every direction I didn’t mind paying it. It took about 40 minutes to get to the hostel.

On the drive I was amazed at two things;

  1. The electric wires running from post to post & the quantity of them grouped together
  2. The scooters, multiple passengers facing all directions with no helmets to be seen

Safety obviously not an aspect in this country.

The driver had to ring the hostel for directions. I had booked Bearpacker Hostel due to the reviews on Hostelworld & the proximity to Bangla Road & the beach. I also wanted a private room which they could offer for approx. €20 a night. The reception is bright & airy but before you step in you have to remove your shoes & be buzzed inside. Security is a big thing in this hostel. There are signs everywhere warning of penalties to any guest sneaking a non-guest inside. Check in was easy & I was shown to my “room”. Each floor is named after bears & come equipped with male & female bathrooms. The floors also have washing machines beside the bathrooms. My “room” was more like a pod at the front of the dorms. I am small (5’2) so it wasn’t much of an issue for me, though it could be claustrophobic at times. However if you are over 5’6 I recommend the dorms. I have to say the aircon was very good & effective compared to others I encountered, also the locker provided was large. After getting changed into a bikini & shorts, I made my way upstairs to the pool. There is a lady serving food from the kitchen in the common area up there, beers in the fridge & a sofa in front of a tv. Outside there were tables and chairs, the pool and bean bags on the decking. There was nobody there so I decided to explore. 

I headed down the street, past the various women offering massages, fast food restaurants and made my way to the beach. I found a place on the sand and took in my surroundings. The weather was overcast but the beach was still busy, many traders offering goods or refreshments, however once you say no thank you they move on. I like this as I hate being rude to people. I stayed about an hour before moving along. The beach wasn’t spectacular at all, nothing I haven’t seen before in Spain. This is most likely due to tourism taking over.

I was quite tired after traveling so I headed back to the hostel. Though there was people in the pool this time there was no effort at making conversation. They all seemed to be in groups. Though I tried initiating conversation, I was politely answered and that was that. I got some food of the lady in the hostel, it was nice and also only about €2 for dinner. I then headed to my room to FaceTime home (wifi was good here) then fell asleep early enough. 

The next day was similar. I spent a few hours at the beach, walked up Bangla Road and grabbed a cider, then went back to the hostel. Again failing to get proper conversation out of other guests! I gave up and spent my time reading and texting home. I had a nap before getting changed and heading back to Bangla for dinner and to watch Manchester United play terrible football. I went to the Aussie sports bar and I have to say the chow mein was lovely. Though I wasn’t finding Thailand as cheap as what people made it out to be by any means. For example most bars that served wine were charging €5 per glass. Cider (if served) was €2/3. Your best bet is beer if you can drink it.

I headed home wondering if I would ever make friends, also looking forward to the day ahead where I was being picked up early for a trip to the Elephant Sanctuary. I had to email them to confirm booking as luckily enough I had looked online where they mentioned they were having issues. I would recommend doing this if you booked well in advance. 

I was collected early and I was the first. By the time we got to the sanctuary we had an Australian family of 4, a solo young English girl, an English guy and his Polish girlfriend. For the first time in days I had conversations with people!! It was already a good start. They even shared mosquito spray with me. We had an introduction about the sanctuary and where our fees were going (€70 approx). We then were asked to help prepare the sugar and bananas before we went to meet the elephants. There were a few babies and they were very cute, but at the same time when one runs toward you get out of their way!! We got to feed them, pet them then bathe them. They were never tied up. We got a small lunch, a group photo then headed on our way. A good experience I have to say. 

After I returned from the sanctuary I headed up to the bean bags to chill out. After a while I started conversation with two Swedish girls and one engaged properly with me thank god. We had a few drinks when more people came up and when the two girls left I got to join them. They invited me on their night out and I gladly accepted. Everyone was ten years younger but when talking about travel and experiences age doesn’t seem to matter. We went to Bangla road and tried a few bars. It is an experience, very commercial and full of drunk tourists! I was so happy though to be mixing with people and having fun.

The next day, some were hungover so they remained in bed. Some of us went to the pool and spent the day chatting. I went off for a while to book my accommodation in Phi Phi which took forever as most hostels seemed to be party hostels which I’m too old for and the hotels weren’t getting great reviews either. Finally chose one and booked my transport at reception for the following morning. That evening I joined others for a meal on the beach which was nice then had a walk whilst paddling my feet. We got a few drinks and headed back to the roof for an hour before saying our goodbyes.

Overall I have to say it was tough at the beginning and Phuket wasn’t what I imagined Thailand to be like. Very touristy and commercial, not like paradise at all. However I was warned and some people like that. Everyone has different opinions.I didn’t  rent any bikes during my trip and maybe if I had I would have seen more amazing places. The hostel was lovely and would stay in it again. If like me you have a hard time getting people to engage, keep trying with different people. It isn’t you! Some people just rather keep to their own groups.

Hens in Edinburgh 

Ok so last year my best friends sister asked for my help with organising her hens for this year as we’ve been friends 18 years so I know her pretty well. I was honoured and set about pricing flights and hotels to give them options about where to bring her. I knew she wouldn’t want too much expense on people and as she’s getting married on St Patrick’s Day to get sun you would need to be travelling further afield than usual. With the Ryanair flights being pretty good times and only €80 return to Edinburgh we chose to go there. 

So considering I booked so far in advance I got a great deal on a hotel that rated well on Tripadvisor. The Apex City of Edinburgh hotel in Grassmarket to be precise. £68 a night for a double room without breakfast. I had to check on rooms nearer our departure and the price had doubled so we definitely got a good deal. 

The next thing I booked was our transfers. I googled a few companies and went with Rideways as they had the most competitive price. I have to say from the moment we landed we were well looked after by this company and I would recommend them to everyone. The cabs were always waiting for us, the cars were immaculate and the drivers were very pleasant. 

We had decided that what tends to happen on hens is that the second night is always the main night but sometimes after all the alcohol on the first day, everyone tends to be too tired to fully enjoy the activities. My friend didn’t want costumes or fuss so we booked a cocktail class in Revolution for Friday afternoon with food to follow and we would remain in our t-shirts for the entire day. T-shirts were ordered from and they were pretty reasonable. 

We got other bits and pieces to surprise her with and did a few personal touches too that we knew she would like. We also booked her make up with Makeup Masters Debbie as she always makes us look amazing and just a nice treat to send the Hen off with. 

With everything sorted we were all excited to be heading off. Layers upon layers of tan were applied 😂. Prosecco was ordered in the airport and then we got told off for the rudeness of our t-shirts! The hotel was lovely in a great location. The castle was right in our view. The reception staff were lovely and helped us with any queries we had. Another bottle of prosecco awaited us in the room, gifted by a friend who couldn’t make it!

After the bubbles we made our way up the hill to Revolution. The class was good fun, with us all in dirty minded form. The poor bloke teaching us was mortified! There was shots for right and wrong answers and unfortunately one of the girls was suffering for a while later after consuming the chilli shot for being incorrect.

After the class we had a two course meal and more alcohol. The staff were lovely and food was good too. However the atmosphere on the Friday was lacking so we made our way to the Three Sisters which is a big pub that attracts hens and stag parties. 

We had a kitty for our drinks, grabbed a seat and ordered a lot of alcohol. We spent the first hour play “Never have I ever” and laughing at each other’s stories. We are all a filthy minded bunch so there’s always a dirty giggle to be had. As the time went on the music got louder and we ended up dancing. Some guy got very excited dancing with our hen and ended up hurting her back, though with the amount she drank the effect of this wasn’t felt until the next day. We met up with another stags and had a bit of banter. In Britain the pubs close about 1am (in Ireland most close about 3am) but on this occasion we were happy to make the journey back to the hotel. Bottled water is supplied free of charge so we stocked up at reception before falling into our beds. 

The next day some of us were worse for wear. We eventually managed to peel ourselves from the beds and go to get some food. The Saturday was a miserable day unfortunately so we had to get umbrellas from the hotel. After a bit of indecisiveness we stumbled across a place called Brunch. It was very busy and we had to squashed in together on a small table. The food was lovely and reasonable however the service was slow. It took a while to take our order and from there it was a long wait for our food. 

We got a taxi from there to John Lewis and after that we wandered around the high street. It was such a pity is was raining as we all would have liked to explore Edinburgh more. Some parts reminded me of something from Hogwarts. It is a place I will return to sightsee at some point in life. 

We all met in the hotel restaurant at 5pm to fill up for the evening. We were the only people there. My meal was nice however some of the girls weren’t impressed with their mains. It did the job anyway and we headed upstairs to get ready. 

After more prosecco, games and tears we all left to head to Revolution again. This time it was packed. I had to wait 30 minutes at the bar to be served! The music was good and the dance floor was full. We met the stags again and we just buzzed off them for the night. We got kicked out of there at 1am and finished off our night in a rock bar that was open late. 

Needless to say the next day we were a little bit tired! We got ready for the airport and as soon as we checked out our driver helped us with our bags. We would have liked an extra day but we’ll know for the next time!

New Year, same me

I don’t make New Years resolutions anymore, I never stick to them. However a long time ago, possibly even two years, I made the decision that I would try have as few regrets as possible and to travel more. I feel I am succeeding in keeping that promise to myself. It feels good to be honest. 

I know it doesn’t sound too hard, god love me having to travel right?!, but solo travel never occurred to me as an option so pushing myself towards that was a huge step. 

I have been lucky to travel to a few countries this year. First trip was a cruise from Abu Dhabi stopping in Oman and Dubai. There I got to ride a camel and visit a beautiful mosque. 

My next trip was to Amsterdam for a weekend break where I experienced gay pride, saw Anne Frank’s home and got my first tattoo. 

Peru was my big test. I planned this trip for ten months, took five of those months to get the courage to book it! I spent the summer hill walking to try and prepare for it but nothing could have. It pushed me to my limits with illness and altitude but I survived and managed to do everything I set out to. 

Berlin was my final stop for a weekend trip. Decorated very prettily for Christmas it’s another place ticked off my list. 

In the past I normally try to lose weight as my New Years resolution, however like everyone else it normally goes nowhere after a while! When I decided on Peru I also decided to try lose 14lbs so there would be less weight to carry on my trek. I didn’t diet I just made better decisions regarding takeaways (not having as many), staying away from bread as much as possible and eating speed foods when possible. I also hill walked throughout the summer which helped. The weight was extremely slow coming off but as I wasnt depriving myself it wasn’t too bad. I succeeded in having 9lbs off by the time I left and due to illness over there I had 14lbs gone by the time I came back. (However Christmas has messed that up!) Hopefully I will continue to make better decisions. 

I have succeeded in not having regrets this year, well at least ones that I have control over. Obviously there are times other people’s choices affect you and make you sad but I’ve learned to only worry about the things I can control. My fear of solo travel for instance. Though I didn’t go solo in the end I had intended to go and when I booked the flights I was extremely nervous, excited and scared at the same time! I knew though if I didn’t go that I would always wonder what if? When I came back from Peru I was depressed for a few days. I don’t use the words depressed lightly. A lot of things affected me, especially being very sick and I cried for days. I didn’t think I would be able to solo travel as I was so dependent when I was sick, however I picked myself up and I now have Thailand booked for April. I can’t let my fears rule my life.

I have spent the year spending time with friends and family. I feel that the only thing you take with you when your time is up is your memories. These can be from nights out, weekends away, concerts, meals at home or walks in the fresh air. 

This year has been sad for many people but for me it has been one of my happiest in a long time. That’s not to say everything has been wonderful but the good has definitely outweighed the bad. I have grown stronger, faced some fears, tried new things and lost some weight! 

If you are looking to make a resolution make it one that you will live by in years to come. Something you can achieve without too much effort and that will make you happier. 

Happy New Year everyone xxx 

Day 2 of Peru Hop

I woke up very early the next morning in Paracas and while texting home I found the sound of the waves calling me outside. It was 6am and I was in South America looking out at the waves, drinking it all in. I was proud of myself for going through with my plans even if they weren’t solo. I stayed for a little while until I spotted a man walking up the beach alone. I didn’t feel unsafe however common sense kicked in. I made my way back into the hostel for tea n bread with jam. 

A little while later our group met for the optional tour to Ballestas Islands. We boarded the speed boat and I swear I had the biggest smile on my face. Three days into the trip and it was everything I wanted. Our first stop was to show us the imprint of a candelabra in one of the islands. 

We then made our way to the other islands where we were filled in on all the wildlife that inhabits it. So many different types of birds. We had the pleasure of seeing some penguins and as the tour continued we got to see some sea lions up close. It was a great tour that I would recommend. My only issue was my motion sickness kicked in after a while so my smile faded to me becoming very quiet trying not to get sick!! 😷

After we got back on shore I got myself back to normal in time for our trip to the national reserve. It’s not far from Paracas and it was included in the tour. It was beautiful to see and I’m glad I went. 

We went back and grabbed our bags from Kokopelli and boarded the bus to Huacachina. It wasn’t too long a drive. I was very tired so I didn’t take in much of the scenery along the way. Huacachina is an oasis in the middle of the desert and I was excited to go there. We checked into Bananas Hostel and got shown to our 3 bed dorm that we shared with a lovely Canadian called Jason. Bananas has a pool so the outdoor area was packed and a great place to chat to new people. We got some food from the bar and we both thought it was pretty good. We met up with the rest of the group for our sand boarding tour. For $15 it was a bargain. our group was a good one and we got told our driver was one of the bests he definitely didn’t disappoint! The buggy was exhilarating, like being on a rollercoaster in the sand! I did a similar tour in Dubai for €100 and it didn’t even compare to how much I enjoyed this one. 

Before sandboarding we stopped to take photos with the sand dunes. One of our group wanted to do a pyramid so she gathered a few of us to attempt it. I felt so sorry for the guy underneath me!!

We were taken to our first sand dune to board down. The drivers gave us wax to rub over our boards and talked us through how to go down safely on it. He gave me a push and I loved it! It was only a short ride but it was fun. We had four more to do and I couldn’t wait!

The first three were the easy ones with the last two becoming steeper! What I loved about this tour was everyone bonded together. When anyone needed a physical push down the dune we helped each other. We encouraged everyone to try it even if they were scared. The last dune was pretty scarey so that took a lot of guts. When I got myself ready on the board I knew I wasn’t 100% comfortable but I asked Carol to push me anyway. As the board made its way down, the nuts attached to the straps tore into my hand. By the time I made it to the bottom my hand was bloody and throbbing! However I can’t stress how much I LOVED it!!

After sunset we headed to a barbecue, arranged by Maurice. I was so tired and my hand was really sore so I didn’t stay long. The food wasn’t great anyway but I tried to stay as long as possible as I really enjoyed the company of our tour group. 

The next morning it was really hot and as we didnt have to leave until lunch I took myself out to the bar to grab breakie and some rays!! My roommate was kind and organised our breakfast as I have not got a bit of Spanish. I love chatting to new people and hearing stories about their travels and their lives. After a while I grabbed a sunbed and took in the sunshine! 

I didn’t want to leave but we had to join the tour for our overnight trip where we eventually would arrive in Cusco. I was a little disappointed to find the bus we boarded wasn’t as nice as the one we enjoyed the previous two days. 

It wasn’t too bad a journey as we stopped to view the Nazca lines (I wasn’t a fan) and later for dinner. Once we got settled on board I took a sleeping tablet to help with the overnight journey! I was soon conked out so it worked 😊. I woke about 4 am however we were to stop at 5 to let people off in Arequipa and pick up new members. We were sad to see people go as in the two days we got close to some! 

There’s not a lot to write about the rest of the journey. We travelled through beautiful countryside and stopped for meals. We chatted to new people at lunch and then we all parted ways once we got to rainy Cusco! And that’s a story for another blog…